Spring Shopping...Make a list before you shop!

When is the last time you bought yourself some new clothes? If you can't remember, it has been too long!

Many moms buy, buy, buy for their kids but rarely buy anything for themselves. The problem is that kids need clothes. Kids never stop growing and therefore they always need something. Moms don't really grow. We don't use the toes of our shoes as scooter brakes and we don't climb trees. Our clothing never wears out.

So you find yourself always buying for the kids and if you are like most moms, especially moms of girls, you over-buy. I did this one time and it cured me of it forever. I remember 3 years ago, I bought way too many outfits for my then 2 year old daughter. Of course, everything I bought was on sale or bought a season ahead. I will talk more about that later. But, her closet was full, so full that I thought I might have to go buy more hangers. At the end of that summer as I was packing stuff away, I looked at what had been worn and what still had tags on it. I was sickened to see that she had worn only 20% of what I bought. What a waste! Those moms with girls know, it is hard to stop shopping for them because EVERYTHING is so stinkin' cute! I vowed then to never make myself feel that way again. I now shop with a list. Yes, a shopping list for clothes. It may sound ridiculous, but it saves money and it saves your sanity. I live in Texas so we are lucky enough to really only have 2 seasons--summer and a long fall with a few winter-ish days.

Here is my spring/summer list:
Child 1 (boy, 7):
3 khaki shorts
3 navy shorts
3 denim shorts
2 swimming trunks
5 polo style shirts
5 t-shirts
nice sandals
play shoes--usually cheap sandals from Target
flip flops
(still has jeans & athletic shoes from winter )

Child #2 & #3 (Girls, 5 & 2)
5 shorts (solid colors)
3 capris (solid colors)
8 tops (to mix and match with shorts & capris)
5 sundresses (cotton, no iron)
2-3 nicer dresses
2 swim suits
white sandals
play shoes (cheap from Target)
flip flops (cheap at Disney Store)
dressy sandals (usually in a metallic so they go with everything)
(still has jeans & athletic shoes from winter)
Of course daughter #2 has lots of hand-me-downs from big sis!

Make your list and carry it with you. I love my Blackberry because it has a notepad feature and that is where I keep my list. I call it shopping with a purpose. Whenever I shop my favorite resale shops, I consult my list. I already have shorts for my son for this coming spring. I got them for $1.50 at The Children's Place at the end of September. That is much better than the $14.50 they will be in March.

Shop smarter and save enough money to buy yourself a few new pieces for spring!


How to Declutter...step by step. It works.

If you're like me, you watch those shows on TV where some professional organizer comes in, clears out a room and miraculously turns it into a perfect room in 30 minutes.

Ha! Don't you wish! While I don't promise results in 30 minutes, I can promise that if you do these steps and put forth some effort to change your ways...you will see results.

Your stuff becomes clutter when it is homeless. You don't have your silverware causing clutter. Why? Because it has a home. Clutter is simply stuff looking for a home. You must decide where its home is and put it there! Sometimes that home is in someone else's house or in the landfill.

How long this process takes depends on how much clutter you have and the amount of time you have to dedicate to the project.

Before you begin:
Gather about 8-10 boxes, laundry baskets, etc. Anything will work as long as it is about the size of a laundry basket.

DO NOT go buy bins, baskets, etc. for organizing. This will only add to the clutter. You buy those on a NEEDS only basis and you only know what your needs are AFTER you declutter.

Label each laundry basket or box with a room name for each room you are decluttering.

Label one basket/box for DONATE. If you plan on selling anything at a garage sale or resale shop then label one SELL.

Get one large trash bag. It doesn't need a label, it's trash!

Now you are ready to begin. But which room? That is really up to you, but I would start with the room that bothers you the most. If it is overwhelming, call a friend to come help.

Decluttering Steps:
1. Line up baskets/boxes in the room you are decluttering.

2. Start at the entrance and work clockwise around the room.

3. Pick up something. A book, a shoe, a toy, a movie, whatever.

4. Make a decision:
-Does that item belong in that room? (Does a Barbie belong in your bathroom? Does a
package of wall anchors belong in the living room?
-Does that item belong in another room? (Barbie goes in the basket labeled with daughter's
name. Wall anchors go in the basket labeled "garage".)
-Does the item work? If no, throw it away!
-Does the item serve a purpose? Does it fit? Do you like it? Do you use it? If no, donate it!
-Do you really need 25 pairs of jeans? Do you really need 42 plates? Does your son really need
123 Hot Wheels cars? Choose your favorites and donate the rest.

If the item DOES belong in that room, leave it there. Try to put it where it belongs in that
room if it has a home or just gather like items to be organized later. You are decluttering, not
redecorating today. Make a decision for every item in that room including furniture.

WHATEVER you decide, you MUST make a decision. The item goes somewhere!

5. Keep moving through the room picking up items and putting them in the baskets
corresponding to the rooms they belong in.
This may sound obvious, but many people try to WALK the misplaced item back to its
rightful room. Not only will you walks miles and miles around your house doing this, you will
waste your whole day and get nothing done.

6. When you finish with your first room, you have a choice. If you are not sick of being in that
room, you may want to go ahead and organize what you have left. When you see what you
have left, you can make a trip to the store to get your organizers if you want. BUT, make a
list and keep your receipt. Make sure that what you buy is actually going to help and that you
are going to use it. Otherwise, it just becomes clutter.
Example:
You decluttered your home office. You now have a pile of books, a stack of stuff
that needs to be filed, a bag of pens, a pile of CDs and a few other little things.
Organize the books on the shelf. Buy some file folders and a file box for the papers. Buy a
drawer organizer for the pens and little things. And buy a CD box for the CDs.

7. Start room #2. Take ALL the baskets full of stuff with you to that room. Hopefully the
baskets aren't overflowing at this point. If they are, empty the basket in its room.

-------REPEAT STEPS 1-5--------

Also go through the basket that belongs in that room.


8. Continue through these steps. Carrying baskets with you to each room and gathering stuff
that doesn't belong in that room.

***You will find yourself backtracking. When you are working in the kitchen and have
finished the office and the living room, you will find stuff in the kitchen that belongs in the
office and living room.
Here is what you do-
You take those things to their room. IF you've already organized the room (step 6), then
it should be easy to find a home for them. IF you skipped step 6 and are coming back to
organize that room later, then simply empty the basket. Try to still group like things together
when possible.

9. Continue on until you have worked in every room and emptied every basket.
Once you find a home for everything, it will be easier to clean your house.


My husband joked with me one time that if I bought a shirt, I had to get rid of a shirt. I laughed at him at the time, but this system might work for somethings. If you buy a new pair of black boots, why hang onto the old ones?

You have to decide, is it more important to have this stuff or more important to have a peaceful home?

I wish you luck on your decluttering adventure. Let me know how it turns out for you.


****If you have kids, you are sure to have artwork. Don't make a big plastic container of papers or try to save every craft they make. You'd need an 8000 sq. ft. house by the time they are 10.
Take a picture of it. Then go to Shutterfly and make a photo book.

Dining Out With Little Ones!

If you dine out with your little ones, is it more disaster than delightful?

Do you ever get to say more than 3 words to your spouse?

My 5 and 7 year old are almost always great in restaurants, but they are even better when they have something to keep them busy.

Bag o' tricks:

Brain Quest cards
Color Wonder markers and paper
Crayons (but not in the summer, they melt in the car)
Mad Libs
Travel Tic Tac Toe (amazon.com)
Flash cards
Melissa and Doug Travel Bingo(amazon.com)
Melissa and Doug Travel Memory(amazon.com)
Foam Letters
Wikki Stix
Finger Twister (amazon.com)

Play doh
Travel size Magnadoodle
Color forms

for the parent:
Handi Wipes (for cleaning tables, high chairs and kids)
Kid size forks (look next to plastic forks)
Take and toss sippy cups or straw cups... See More
Bendy straws (cut down about 2" and store them in a toothbrush holder)
First Aid kit
Oh no! Kit (This includes things like fun size Skittles or fruit snacks. This is for when all else fails.)

Do you clean green?

Cleaning green means cleaning with non-toxic products. Sure, there are products on the store shelves that are green, but wouldn't it be nice to save some green too?

Window cleaner:
1 cup water
1 TBSP white vinegar
1 cup rubbing alcohol
Pour ingredients in spray bottle and shake.

All purpose spray:
1/2 tsp washing soda (great for many other things too, see link)
drop of dish soap
2 cups of hot water
Pour ingredients in spray bottle and shake.

Furniture polish:
1 tsp olive oil
1/2 lemon juice
Mix ingredients in a glass jar. Dab rag in mixture and polish furniture. You can try a spray bottle but many can't handle the oil. Store sealed.

Laundry detergent:
1 quart boiling water
2 cups Ivory Bar soap, finely grated
2 cups Borax
2 cups Washing Soda
2 gallons water
Add finely grated bar soap to the boiling water and stir until soap is melted. You can keep on low heat until soap is melted.
Pour the soap water into a large, clean pail and add the Borax and Washing Soda. Stir well until all is dissolved.
Add 2 gallons of water, stir until well mixed.
Cover pail and use 1/4 cup for each full load of laundry. Stir the soap each time you use it . You can store it in recycled laundry jugs, milk jugs or a large pail with a lid.

"MOM! I'm Bored!!!"

Being a stay at home mom means wearing several hats. If you have a toddler one of those hats is teacher. This job can seem overwhelming to many mothers for several reasons. Maybe they are afraid of “doing it” wrong or they don’t know where to start and what to use. Or, maybe it is merely the fact that it is just one more thing to add to their already hectic day. Well, I was a teacher. I mean a real elementary teacher. I have 2 degrees in education hanging on my wall. So I can honestly say, that of all the tasks I face as a mother, teaching my kids has never been an area of stress for me. Believe me though, there are others.

We, as a generation, are so incredibly blessed with a wealth of knowledge right at our fingertips. The Internet provides us with so many resources. Here are just some of my recommendations:

starting at about 6 months:

Sign Language:
http://www.babies-and-sign-language.com/
http://www.parents.com/baby/development/intellectual/13-sign-language-words-for-baby/

starting at about 12 months:

1. Memory joggers– I would ask my kids questions about things we did yesterday or last week. For example, “Remember yesterday when we went to Nana’s house? What did we eat for lunch? What color shirt was Nana wearing?”

Sounds silly, but my older kids now remember details about things from years ago and I am talking details that I don’t recall until they bring it up.
2. Practice fine motor skills like putting a raisin on a spoon and feeding self
3. READ! In many kindergarten classrooms, they have something called DEAR time. It stands for Drop Everything And Read. I think parents need to practice this at home long before the school years. Read, read and read. I know, there are many nights we don’t feel like reading a story before bedtime. But, really, it is only 5 minutes and the benefits are so great.

starting at about 18 months:

1. color flash cards–you can make your own with index cards and markers
2. shape flash cards– circle, square, triangle, rectangle, oval to start with
3. Alphabet song
4. Count to 10–play games with cereal, blocks, etc.
5. READ! Get a library card and find a discount book store around you.

starting at about 2:

1. Hokey Pokey
2. Red Light, Green Light
3. Scribble Scrabble–paper and crayons
4. Post-It tag– get a pad of Post-it notes and tell your child to put a post in anything in the house that is green, or wood, or round. You choose and they tag it.
5. Play-do–but only if they are past the stage of eating non-food
6. Sidewalk chalk
7. Add in a few new shapes: diamond, pentagon, octagon
8. Continue to read, practice ABC’s and counting

starting at about 3:

1. http://true-learning.com/
2. http://www.hwtears.com/
Start working on handwriting early! Handwriting Without Tears is great. I used it with my daughter starting just before her 3rd birthday.
3. http://www.nickjr.com/parenting/ages_and_stages/3/index.jhtml
4. Art time- buy all kinds of arts and crafts stuff for them to paint, color, and glue.
5. Match up/Memory games
6. Any counting or ABC game—check your local teacher store
7. Patterns- you can buy manipulatives are you can use what you have on hand. Froot Loops can be used to make a color pattern–red, yellow, green, red, yellow, green, etc.
8. Sand and water table
9. READ

starting at age 4:

1. all the stuff listed at age 3, but the next level up
2. Begin working on letter sounds. Leap Frog has several toys that are great for this activity.
3. Write a story. They can draw the pictures and you can write the words to make a book.
4. Money- teach the concept of what equals a dollar. Use real money if you don’t want to buy play money. be careful if you have little ones around.
5. More fine motor skills: make a cereal necklace or use lacing cards
6. Photo walks- take a walk around your neighborhood or the mall and have your child look for certain things—red things, things that make noise, etc. You can take a picture, or if you have a camera for your child, have them take a picture. Print the pictures out and make a photo book. Kids at this age love to go exploring.
7. Four year olds love to help. Have your child help cook, clean, fold laundry, etc. Sure it won’t be done to perfection, but they love to feel a sense of accomplishment.
8. Re-build a book. Take apart a book and have your child put the story back in order. Or, have them re-write the story–well, you would have to write it as they told it to you.
9. If you find that your child is not challenged enough, you may even consider buying a home school kit for pre-k.
10. Yes, you guessed it…READ.

These are just a few of my suggestions. Your child may not like some of these activities or he may be ready for them earlier or later than I stated. You know your child best. Just remember to have fun. Try to incorporate one or two activities each day and they can be the same activities for awhile. Kids love to things over and over. When they have mastered something or they seem bored with it, move on to the next level.

Tackling the Laundry Monster!

What is it about laundry that makes us hate it so much? It isn’t like we have to stand in the river and scrub our husband’s dirty underwear with a bar of soap! Wow, that puts it into perspective! But really, we throw the laundry in, walk away for awhile, come back and throw it in the dryer. Here comes the difficult part… we have to fold it and put it away. Maybe this is what makes us loathe this particular task.

I have found a schedule that works for me and I keep it posted in the laundry room. It might work for you too, or you might need to tweak it a little. The main thing is not to have a “laundry day”. Do a load or two every day.

M- darks & lights (sometimes 2 loads) wash on cold
T- sheets from the kids’ beds
W- whites
Th- towels and our sheets
F- extra day

I leave the weekend open. I know it sounds crazy to do laundry every day, but it really helps when you only have one load to put away. I usually start a load first thing in the morning. By the time I get myself and the kids dressed and fed, it is ready for the dryer. I fold it and have it put away by lunch!

Another tip:
Fold and hang straight from the dryer. Keep hangers and baskets in the laundry room. I have 5 baskets–one for each member of the family. As I fold, I put that piece of clothing in the appropriate basket.

Try it for 2 weeks!